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emotions.
longing. connection. passion. comfortable. desire. fear. completeness. insecurity. companion. excitement. depression. joy. happiness. satisfactions. pleasure. scared. freedom. guilty. rejection.
.........thoughts. emotions......yes, thats it. an emotional yo-yo. a young person wants . desire to trust the Lord with this very area of their life. but its NOT easy.
it is natural. in Gensis God created male and female in HIS own image. God said. "It is not good for man to be alone," so he fashioned eve from one of adams ribs. God took one human life and split it into two. so, it is a God given Natural desire for a man and woman to want to be united.
but WE ARE MADE COMPLETE IN CHRIST not our significant other.
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fear.
personally. from my past. this has been such a hard thing. for me to "let go, and let God" as people say.scared. of rejection. failure. love.....but the rotten root of it is my trust in Christ to take care of me in the best of my interest. which is weak!
we want a satisfying relationship with the opposite sex and always, in the back of our minds. hope it ends in a happy marriage. then the fear of "what if !?"
is that trust?
am i abiding?
am i one in christ,finding my sig. in Him?
for many girls. it comes from being let down and hurt by past loves. past situations. its so easy for a woman to let her mind take her places. to the white picket fence etc. or get so caught up in the relationship that they put all they have into the other person instead of God!
"Be still and know that i am God...." psalm 46:10
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WE ARE NOT MADE COMPLETE IN ONE ANOTHER. WE ARE MADE COMPLETE IN CHRIST.
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personal.
at this point in my life it is hard. hard to wait. let God work within me. i feel so many things.emotions. desires. physical drives. my friends are dating. getting serious. getting married. its graduation time. ppl are moving away. etc......its an exciting time but hard. we as girls esp. loooooove love. we love love stories. movies. bridal magazines. novels. the fairy tales. but i know i must be patient. God has blessed my singleness. it is a gift.
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when it comes to relationships with the opposite sex. many doubt God. think they know whats best for their own lives. for me and in my opinion it is one of the most difficult areas with which to trust in the Lord. this is where our fears can result in panic inspired actions in attempt to manipulate and control this are of our lives!
"we adore you as being in control of everything..." emphasis added 1 chronicles 29:11
THE TRUEST THING ABOUT GOD IS WHAT HE SAYS ABOUT HIMSELF, NOT WHAT WE THINK ABOUT HIM (OR WHT WE THINK AT ALL)
also, until we have that deep rooted relationship. gained through scripture. we cannot love ourselves. so then how could we love another and put them first?!
THE TRUEST THING ABOUT YOU IS WHAT GOD SAYS ABOUT YOU, NOT WHAT YOU FEEL ABOUT YOURSELF.
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ephesians 1:4-5
psalm 139:1-6, 17-18
jeremiah 29:11-13
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personal.
recently. in my life. i have met a man of God. a long time friend. yet not deeply rooted into friendship. i have evaluated. i feel great around him. drawn. comfortable. trusting. submiting. confused. scared. doubt. fearful. any relationship with feelings attached is to be entered cautiously.
it could be only a great friendship.
it could be casual dating.
it could be more.
am i ready?
am i giving all emotions to God?
am i willing?
can i "step out of the boat" (as he said)?
i do not know. only God knows. he knows me better. he knows my soul mate. he knows all.
you are an amazing man of christ. a leader. a valient warrior. a brother in christ. no matter what. the ways you have already lead. set boundaries. made decisions. make me respect u even more. if not me any girl would be so lucky to have you in their life.
i must trust the lord.
trust is being content with the outcome. knowning God is in control and he has the best in store for the both of us. i cannot forget the signifigance of good friendships.
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i have examined.this is what i know God wants for me.
"do not be bound together with unbelievers, for what partnership has righteousness and lawlesness, or what fellowship has light with darkness?" 2 corinthians 6:14
1corinthians 13...is the founding example of what a good relationship should be.
we must be EQUALLY YOKED.
we must have a rooted FRIENDSHIP.
we must TRUST one another.
we need to have RESPECT for each other.
we need good COMMUNICATION.
we must each have the ability to RESOLVE CONFLICT.
we must each know deep down how each of us feels-KNOWN AND LOVED.
we must each have our OWN PERSONAL IDENTITY and INDIVIDUALITY.
we must be COMFORTABLE around wach other.
we must have TOLERANCE for our differences.
we must have a STABLE relationship.
we cannont have a NON-EXCLUSIVE relationship.
we must lLAUGH often and have FUN.
we must share the same VALUES.
our FRIENDS and FAMILY must APPROVE.
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God is faithful. he will lead. we wants me to submit this are of my life completely to him. i need to trust him. my singleness is a gift from him. i cannot be runnning ahead of him. God is able to meet all my emotional needs. i need to be content in all circumstances.
philipans 4:1
"Mans steps are ordained by the Lord. How then can man understand his way?"
proverbs 20:24.......only in deep relationship with him first and centered i can understand and hear him speak.
psalm 37:23,24
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IF YOU DONT MAKE CONSCIOUS DECISIONS,YOU ARE ALREADY CONFORMED TO THE WORLDS STANDARDS AND WILL CONTINUE TO BE CONFORMED.
i thank you for being cautious. it is very hard. and this process, now, between us seems much harder that there a some feelings. i know i want more. deeper friendship. deeper knowledge of your heart. your desires. your passions in life. even if it is only as a friend. God is in control! i have no fear. well yea, i do, but i continuously present them to Christ!
but please remember. in this feeling of "going backwards" be aware of my emotions that are somewhat in this. be slow to anger. be understanding. be truthful. be my brother in CHRIST.
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today i have the gift of singleness......i will walk in it.
tomorrow
God may give me the gift of marriage........i will wait for it.
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God is in Control.IN HIM i will abide. waiting on HIS timing. desperately dependent on HIM. presenting every thought. emotion. circumstance. attitude . and will be transformed into His likeness!
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"i am the vine and you are the branches; he who abides in me, and i in him, he bears much fruit; for apart from me you can do nothing" john 15:5 w/emphasis
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(.......thank you for being such an amazing example. i know my YL girls would be amazed. i am.
you are a strong couragious man of christ. his son. never stray from the word. trust him in all you do. dont be so hard on yourself when u do slip up. u are created in His image. )
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